What You Really Need To Know About Open Marriage Before Trying One

Darla August 18th, 2018

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An open marriage is not entirely a bad idea! Be that as it may, you need to learn a couple of things about open marriage before diving into the swing 😜 of it!

What is an open marriage?

In an open marriage, the partners agree that they can have extramarital sexual affairs while still in the union. Such an extramarital sexual affair is not regarded as infidelity in an open marriage. It is more so martital agreement than a marital affair.

It isn't for everyone!

Because a friend does well in his or her open marriage, that does not mean you will do as well in one. On the flip side, because a friend couldn't handle his or her open marriage does not mean you will fail in yours if you decide to venture into it. It is a matter of your personality and what you feel will work for you and your spouse. Whatever the case may be, do not force yourself into an open marriage if your personality does not fit such.

Your partner's consent is crucial

What does your partner have to say about an open marriage? Is he or she open to the idea and ready to play along? This is an all-important consideration before you venture into it. Having extramarital sexual affairs without the consent of your marriage partner is nothing other than infidelity. If they agree the first time, revisit it with them often before making he final decision. At times, we do things and say things to please our spouse, even though we have reservations or insecurities.

100% honesty is essential

You need to be honest with yourself and your partner a 100% of the time if you want the open marriage idea to work for you. You may not tell your partner all the details, but you must let them know if you are not comfortable with the open or closed marriage agreement you may have entered into. Are you developing feelings for someone else? Is your love life unfulfilling? Is that the reason you are considering an open marriage? If so, be honest with your partner and talk through it. An open marriage may not be the solution. Be honest and open to communicate every step of the way. You may be surprised to find that through an open marriage is a deeper understanding and trust for one another.

Try couple counseling

Maybe you will not feel the urge to go into open marriage after all. It is possible that all you and your marriage partner need is counseling. Why not book an appointment with a marriage counselor to discuss your differences before you decide to go into an open marriage? Maybe the counselor can help the two of you to rediscover the original love that brought you together in the first place. Who knows; that may put an end to the idea of going into an open marriage!

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Open marriage may be a great idea, but it does not work for everyone. Consider your personality and go for marriage counseling before making the final decision. Whatever is decided upon will be crucial fo the future of your marriage.

Stay tuned for a post on the benefits of an open marriage.